39 – Improving Your Marriage Individually
Is it possible to improve your marriage if your spouse isn’t open to coaching or to change?…
Posts by Natalie Clay
38 – Being Resigned
Being resigned feels better than being angry or resentful, but the damage can be just as great.…
37 – Confidence, Take Two
Self-confidence is so essential to wellbeing in marriage and as an individual that I revisit the topic…
36 – Confidence
How you feel about yourself has a huge impact on your marriage. Let’s discuss.
35 – Boundaries
This week I have a special guest. Jody Moore and I discuss what a boundary actually is…
34 – Divorce
This week I discuss the process I share with couples who are grappling with the decision of…
33 – Zach & Darcy Spafford
Pornography is a frequent issue confronting couples that I coach and, statistically, couples across the general population.…
32 – Write a New Story
It’s a New Year—time to shed the plotlines of our marriage narratives that don’t serve us and…
31 – Truth
Who’s right? Who’s wrong? This week I discuss truth in marriage.
30 – Authenticity
Our desire for a sense of control in our lives can keep us from being authentic. This…
29 – Identity
Who are you? We each take on an identity as an individual and as a couple. Is…
28 – Selfishness
Today I discuss why you might consider trashing the “selfish” label so you can take care of…
27 – Opposites Attract
This week I talk about why many of us decide to marry someone quite different from ourselves…
26 – Getting Out of the Blame Trap
Do you feel like you are always in trouble in your marriage relationship? Today I talk about…
25 – Looking for Judgement
Many of us are on 24-hour alert trying to spot the judgment we’re certain others feel toward…
24 – One of Those Weeks
Do you ever have a week where every effort you make seems wasted? Where the simplest task…
23 – Three Simple Things to Increase Connection
This week I share three techniques that will increase the connection you feel with your spouse—even if…
22 – How to Feel Terrible
Feeling bad is a necessary part of the human experience. Today I discuss ways you can embrace…
21 – Getting Out of the Past
Does our view of our past lead us to self-compassion or victimhood? The perspective we choose will…
20 – The Primitive Brain
Today I talk about why our brains give negative emotions the same gravity as death — and…
19 – User Manual
Just like a user manual for a car or a phone, many of us carry around a…
18 – What is the Headline for Your Marriage?
This week I discuss why we often cling to the “headline” we’ve written for our marriage—even if…
17 – Good Guys & Bad Guys
Parents apply simple labels like “good guys” and “bad guys”—terms that young minds can understand—to protect their…
16 – Diana & Dan Swillinger
All marriages have struggles! Guests Diana and Dan Swillinger share how they’ve worked to overcome some of…
15 – Beliefs in Marriage
You’ve been married long enough to draw firm conclusions about your spouse. These convictions make logical sense…
14 – Transferring Emotion
This week I draw attention to a behavior that many of us exhibit, which, left unchecked, has…
13 – The Model
This week I share the most valuable tool you can use to solve any problem you face…
12 – Trust After Indiscretion
Whenever I work with a client who has been cheated on by their spouse, the question I’m…
11 – Things I Wish I Knew Before Marrying
This week I share tips to help all the soon-to-be-marrieds hit the ground running with healthy and…
10 – Quieting the “Shoulds”
We spend a lot of time trying to understand what we should do. Should you marry that…
09 – How to Argue Productively
Most couples have that one argument that keeps resurfacing. You both dig in your heels and try…
08 – Resentment
Resentment feels terrible. And if we’re not careful, resentment can color our feelings toward our spouse and…